Perhaps this is a stereotypical viewpoint, but it is not a boys are better than girls thing either.
The idea that Women remember dates, and us blokes forget, true or false?
If true, then it has its uses, someone has to record things for others… Births, Weddings, Deaths.
What I find though, is that knowledge of the worst dates, especially by female friends, is not always for the best.
A happy day can be spoilt by simply looking at a calendar, and being reminded of heartbreak.
I have had quite enough death in my own family, and would rather not be reminded of it, I remember enough as it is and that hurts enough.
I remember Birthdays, but I don’t remember deaths,
I know My Dad languished in hospital, with cancer, and I know it was around ANZAC day, because I had shot video of planes going overhead, and of our Dog, Benny, and Mum making soup. Things from home which I thought might make him feel a little better, he died a few days later.
I recently lost Katie, who was my better half, who thought that she was my mate, and who is to argue with a girl, perhaps she was? It tore my heart out, we were always together, and now I was on my own, completely.
I remember that it was in September last year, but I have forbidden myself to remember the day, but I have papers to remind me, the same with Dad.
With Mum it was different, She died right on Halloween, an event she hated, as it wasn’t Australian.
So when Halloween rolls around, it’s in my face, and I really would prefer it wasn’t, it only serves to remind me of losing Mum, and that’s all it will ever do.
I’m just trying to avoid things that bring me down.
My heart is broken into pieces, what good will knowing the date someone died be to anyone?
I don’t need reminding, I remember my family well enough as it is.