I just saw a tweet which said “Can you be happy without kids”.
It’s so strange, even now, when people are beginning to loosen up a bit about “lifestyle choices” that there is still a streak of conservatism where anyone who doesn’t bond with someone by the time they’re twenty five, and reproduce, is a loser.
Well I don’t fit that mould, and I know plenty of others don’t either.
Having kids is easy, mostly, but then supporting them for the next twenty or thirty years, is not.
I for one, never saw myself as being “a good husband” as I love my freedom far too much.
I don’t like babies, I don’t like anything to do with babies… unless they’re a baby animal, of the type which isn’t human.
Being a night person, I didn’t want to wake up at the crack of dawn to get the kids off to school each day, and I didn’t want to pour money into looking after them… school books, bedding, lighting, a computer, food, water… endless resources which I’d rather spend on myself and my dog and cat.
Nor did I want to worry about where they were at nights when they came into their teens.
This is my life, and it’s not perfect, but it’s ok, Having kids would not make it better, nor would having a partner make it better either.
There are lots of people out there who have decided not to have kids, in favour of living out their lives.
Yes there have been a few times when I’ve thought about it, but I’m a practical person, and when I think of all the costs, the blood, sweat and tears, which I’d need to pump into it, well no.
When I walk out of the supermarket after being exposed to screaming kids, I’m thankful they’re not mine.