What I’m about to write is about as open and honest as I can possibly be about my own personal feelings, but I hope that writing it can shatter some ice and hopefully allow people to feel more comfortable with the subject.
I was listening to “The politics of porn” on Radio National’s “Big Ideas” program, and it stirred me up, as what I was hearing from one guest speaker, Sheila Jeffreys, was Women this, Women that, Women, Women, Women… It’s interesting that a person who declares themselves an expert on pornography appears to believe that the only porn available must always have women in it, it doesn’t.
I do, openly confess, that I sometimes watch porn, and often when I do, a woman is not involved, that’s right, I usually watch gay porn. Surprisingly perhaps, I don’t dislike women, and I don’t consider myself gay.
But my sexuality is rather odd, I’ve never stuck a convenient label on myself, mostly because I cannot find one that fits. Rather than declare myself one of the three major sexualities (and there are others), Without telling myself that I must like X or Y due to cultural, peer, family expectations or even my own private decisions, I prefer to make up my mind on the spot. It’s rather like browsing a cafe for some lunch and finding something that you wouldn’t normally eat looks appealing.
With porn, I feel that women very often get in the way of something that looks quite nice, often the man himself.
Women tend to over-play their part, the mock screams of pleasure just get on my nerves and are a complete turn off.
I had wondered if it’s because of the way I was bought up.
In the 70’s it was not unusual to see calendars of semi-naked women, I may have been around twelve at the time, and I remember wondering why we always saw naked women but never naked men, to me it was strange. I suppose I always believed in a fair go for everyone.
Once I was online, I finally did see Men posing naked, and wished I could have done it myself… I didn’t see it as exploitation, but rather, liberation. Let’s be honest, many men love their bodies, but due to cultural factors, it’s not something that is allowed to be documented, though digital photography has helped to put a few holes in that wall.
Thanks to the internet, Men have finally had a chance to show themselves off, does it matter if the viewer is straight or gay? being appreciated is always a good thing.
It was always the prudes who made me feel guilty about my body, the porn made me feel a lot more comfortable with myself, and I found that I was able to be more open when I spoke about sex.
I dislike the view that you can have an almost completely nude woman, but you must hide the nipples, what idiocy decided that? To me, a nipple is just another part of the body, no worse than the nose, ear lobe, or little toe, and we all have them anyway, I don’t understand the fuss.
Should you go to see a bodybuilding contest, you’ll see men showing off almost every part of their carefully crafted bodies. A bodybuilder puts a lot of work into his body and wants to show it off. but then wears a tiny amount of cloth to cover his genitals, I find that funny.
A bodybuilding contest reminds me of cattle breeders showing off their big stud bulls… are the bulls worried that they’re naked? of course not. I think Bodybuilders should liberate themselves and toss away that silly bit of fabric.
I think it might be partly because the penis can be one of the most honest parts of the body that we cover them up (yes we also need protection as evolution screwed up and forgot to give us fur). let me explain… You go to Aunt Ellas place, you love her dearly, but she’s an awful cook. She offers you a cake “mmm this is good Aunt, Lovely!” and as she turns, you slip it to her dog, who is rather fat. a penis, however, will only stand up when it’s owner is genuinely excited, it’s something that can’t be faked.
I mentioned the bulls earlier, Animals are extremely sexy, people tend to ignore that due to cultural reasons, there is an implication of bestiality. but then, is the car you dream of named after a powerful creature? Do you wish you were hung like a horse, built like a bull, a tiger in bed? Be honest now.
The fatal flaw in the story of Beauty and The Beast was that in the end, the prince becomes nothing more than an ordinary bloke, a wealthy prince, yes, but an ordinary bloke, what a shame.
Then there was the TV show in the 80’s, with Vincent who was this amazing lion man who lived below the city, the writers never let Cathrine and Vincent get intimate because you couldn’t have something like that on TV because it would upset too many fragile viewers… pretty sad really.
You may have heard of Furries, if not, let me explain, Furries are people who, in the most basic terms, like to portray themselves as their inner-animal, as I do. Furries express themselves mainly through art, whether that’s drawing, painting, music or dressing up in fursuits (Like footy mascots).
It is not, as some have led people to believe, a sexuality or a fetish, anymore than say, being interested in cricket would make you a catholic.
However, furries like sex just as much as anyone else, and so that element is often expressed in their art.
Who draws furry art? Almost anyone who can hold a pencil steady, raw beginners to fully fledged professional animation artists. and when it is in the form of porn, who is exploited?
These are drawings, fantasies, there are no people involved at all, though the characters can be male or female, and sometimes both at the same time… I wonder what Sheila Jeffreys thinks of this?
Furry art, whether it’s g-rated or x-rated is freely drawn by almost anyone who has the talent to draw it, and then it is scanned and uploaded to furry websites like Fur Affitnity, where I also have an artists website.
You cannot see furry porn on Fur Affinity unless you sign in and then elect to see the artwork via your personal settings, it’s not something your kids will accidentally come across.
Anyway, with what I’ve written, I hope you see my angle, is porn, as Sheila Jeffreys says, about violence against women? even when there are no women in this type of porn at all?
I would like some thoughts on this, and if you have any questions please ask.
The Politics of Porn