Often, a person has vegan friends, who are easy to cater for at a wedding reception, it’s practical to assume a vegan or vegetarian will be attending anyway, so people have a choice.
But I find that introverts are generally over looked.
We’d tell you, but we’d rather not be any bother.
Going to the Wedding itself is generally not that much of a concern, Churches at at least fairly quiet and comfortable… even if you are an atheist.
An outdoor wedding, if the weather allows, is even better.
It’s the reception afterwards which is tricky.
A wedding reception is a giant affair which extroverts lap up, but we introverts find very confronting.
So I thought I’d offer a few ideas for consideration.
We do want to be there, you’re very likely a good friend who we cherish, and you probably already know that I’m (We’re) as quiet as a church mouse. The celebration is going to be a stretch for us, but we want to meet you half-way.
It might be wise to seat us with someone we know very well and get on with. I once had a friend who thought that I should be seated well away from my Parents and sit with some of his friends, who were lovely, but I didn’t know them at all, and it bothered me.
After I ate, I really wanted nothing more than to escape. I love music, but I love it when it’s coming out of speakers and I have the controls in my hand.
I don’t know if it’s an introvert thing, but I dislike loud music, I like clarity and quiet.
Escape at a reception often consists of two options, hiding in the lav or going outside. the lav is usually bustling with people needing to pee or freshen up, so it’s not ideal, plus it’s holding things up.
Going outside might be ok, but it might be cold, dark and a bit spooky.
What’s needed is an escape room, if you’re an extrovert then you probably have a “chill out” room in your mind… people lounging around, soft blue lights, chill out music… no.
What I have in mind is a room with soft furnishings, possibly with a few bean bags on the floor to sprawl over or crawl into.
A table with a few goodies on it, cakes, bikkies, wine and a nice warm pot of tea.
Some books perhaps, and wi-fi.
If it’s not too cold, an open window would be lovely.
I personally wouldn’t mind if others joined me, and that we could have a conversation and share some tea, that is my idea of mingling.
Plus if someone has had enough, I don’t mind nursing them for a while either… not because they’re drunk, that’s entirely different.
It doesn’t have to be fancy either.
What are your thoughts?